Blogger's Block...

I've had 'blogger's block'...for 3 days now. I tried to tell myself that it didn't matter what I wrote, as long as I wrote something. I then justified that by saying that no one reads this dating nonsense anyway. I checked the stats to back this up....

• 83 people checked out Date #3s shirt on the blog; and
• 90 people read about the crazy lady (me) going for her first Five in Five date.
• All of my dates thus far have mentioned that they read it. 

So now the pressure is on to do Date #2 and Date #4 equal justice. Wish me luck...

Every Person is a New Door to a Different World...

I know you're excited to read about my Five in Five dating Challenge, but first, a little task for you ...

I invite you to pause for a moment... settle your awareness on a person that you share a close connection with. It could be a friend, a colleague, a lover, even a pet.... Bring the image of their face into your mind's eye. Now, recall a special, happy time you have shared.... How did you feel at that moment? Now, think of how your world has changed just by having that special person in it... notice the smile that has formed on your face... pause and enjoy... Take a big breath in, letting that smile spread to every cell of your body and a loooong breath out, grateful for the world they have opened up for you...

Hi there!

Aren't we blessed to have such wonderful people in our life!? And isn't it cool that at any moment we have the choice to open doors, and let new people into our life? And that we can do the same for others ... connecting more and more people in this web of life?! Yeah I agree, it's pretty sweet.

In the next two days, I'll be connecting with two more dates, one I have met briefly and the other I have never met at all.... both through friends at work... worlds within worlds... connecting...

But with at least 2 dates in the next 2 days, there's no time chat... I must get on with my pre-date prep...

Good night peeps... Happy connecting... and while you're at it, please find me a Date #5

One of my favourite connections ... thanks Kerri I'm so grateful to have you in my world!!











p.s. Kerri is arguably the #1 fan of this blog and my Five in Five dating challenge

p.p.s This photo was not taken on a date!

p.p.s No, we're not sisters.

p.p.p.s Yes, it's a wig!

*Five in Five Update* - I had a goal... and I smashed it!

We did it!! Thanks to the brilliant support of my friends, family, colleagues and a few anonymous donors, I have smashed my goal of raising $200 for charities that work to break the cycle of social disadvantage.

In fact, as at 5pm today, there is $235 sitting in my donation account! THANK YOU EVERYONE!

A few people have asked exactly what 'charities that work to break the cycle of social disadvantage' means. Well, those affected by social disadvantage include those who often have insufficient resources and connections to meet basic needs. It often results in low income, having limited access to education and healthcare, and being marginalised out of mainstream society. This significantly restricts their ability to participate in the community that they live in and leaves them in isolation and with a lack of supportive networks. There are 7 Australian charities involved with Five in Five  and you can read about each on the 'Who are we Supporting?' page. 

In my high school teaching days, I worked with several young people, caught in this cycle of disadvantage and it is truly heartbreaking!! These kids came to school wearing the same under-sized tshirt they had worn every other day, on an empty stomach and often with no shoes, let alone school books. I hope that together we can break that cycle and create opportunities, connection and hope... It's ironic really, as that is exactly what I have received as a participant in this challenge... opportunities, connections and hope.  Let's pay it forward!!

As you've probably worked out by now, I am always up for a challenge... so here it is ... 

IF I CAN DOUBLE MY GOAL AND RAISE $400 BY 8TH MARCH, I WILL ASK ONE OF MY FIVE IN FIVE DATES FOR A SECOND DATE...

I feel like I should be throwing in a free set of steak knives to anyone who donates... but I won't. Instead, you can wear a smile, knowing you have helped those in need. You can also wear a smile knowing that the more money I raise, the closer you are to seeing me being thrown out of a plane. EEEEK!  Here's the link to my SPONSORSHIP PAGE. 

I might even run a poll so you can vote on which date you'd like to see me invite on a second 'not for charity' date! 

So here's where we are at:
Date #1 - DONE
Date #2 - planned for Thursday
Date #3 - DONE
Date #4 - planned for Friday
Date #5 - was expecting a call today but it didn't happen... I NEED a Date #5 Pleeeeeaaase! Time is running out!

A Mantra for your Monday...

I'm a man down!! Who will be Date #5?

There was a point last week when I thought my colleagues' excitement about the Five in Five challenge had landed me 5 dates and then some... but that is not the case.

Today I received an email from Date #5 explaining that his situation had changed and he is no longer able to help me out with this cause. I read that to mean that he has met someone... go you good thing!

Now I am back at the 'finding a date' stage...

As I waited in line for my lunch at Grill'd (BTW, how good is their Kung Fu Fighter burger!?!?!), I started brainstorming ways to pick up one of the lads, chowing down a burger at a nearby table.

It looked something like this...

"Can I borrow your tomato sauce?"
(Wait for tomato sauce)

"Can I borrow a chip to go with it?"
(Wait for chip and smile from cute eligible bachelor that appreciates how clever I am and is pleased to be interrupted by such a chip-loving cutie)

"Thanks. You can put it on my tab, my name's Kirsty" (killer smile)
(Hello Date #5)

That was it. It could be seen as a pick up if he wanted it to be, or just a weird flirty chick that had a chip craving. I rehearsed it in my head... perfect! Let's do it...

I placed my order and casually walked towards said group. I scanned their table and ... NO CHIPS OR TOMATO SAUCE! Epic Fail. I contemplated using my backup line... "Hi my name is Kirsty, would anyone here like to go on a date with me for charity?" But instead, I walked back to the office and let the girls know I was a date down.

As I devoured my burger (and chips with tomato sauce), my boss jumped on the phone to her Massage Therapist. The message she left sounded something like this...
"Hi, this is ______. You might remember last week I mentioned that my friend at work is participating in a charity event. Well, she could really use your help so please call Kirsty on ____."

BOOM. I'll let you know the outcome...

So here's where we are at:
Date #1 - DONE
Date #2 - planned for Thursday
Date #3 - DONE
Date #4 - planned for Friday
Date #5 - waiting on the call back. Would three dates in one week be excessive?

Sponsorship Update:
If you check out my Sponsorship Page you will see that I have raised $130 for charity. That's 65% of my goal!!! I would like to thank the DFR BRIS Psych team for their generous donation, which somehow didn't make it to my sponsorship page but is still much appreciated.

Five in Five Update: Date #3

Here's what my Saturday looked like:

5am - Get up, quick morning routine then hit the highway
7:30am - Yoga on the beach near Caloundra
9:30am - Mindfulness Meditation Coaching Course
1pm - fish and chips on the beach then hit the highway home
3pm - return missed call from Date #4 (drinks and tapas penciled in diary for this Friday)
3:30pm - enter 'fish and chips' induced coma
6pm - Get ready for Date #3
7pm - Arrive at "The Three Monkeys" West End for Dessert with Date #3

One of my biggest aims as a Yoga teacher (and human being) is to make the principles of Yoga and Mindfulness relevant and accessible to all. Yoga and Mindfulness, in my experience, provide us with universal tools that we can use in our daily lives to feel more content, calm and connected. And yes, these tools can be applied to 'dating' too.

According to Jon Kabat-Zinn, there are 8 Pillars of Mindfulness, which if embraced in our daily life, are a prescription for living a more full life. If at any time, we find ourselves in a place of dis-ease, we can reflect on these 8 pillars to see what we need an extra dose of to bring us back to wholeness and out of suffering.

The 8 pillars are:

1. Non-Judging
2. Patience
3. A Beginners Mind
4. Trust
5. Non-striving
6. Acceptance
7. Letting Go
8. A Sense of Humor

You might be wondering how on earth this translates to dating but by gosh it does!

Let's look at 'Beginner's Mind'. The Japanese Zen Master, Suzuki Roshi, is famous for having said,

"In the Beginner's mind, there are many possibilities, but in the expert's there are few"

Beginners come to new experiences not knowing so much and therefore open. Having a beginner's mind, means taking the chance to see something as if for the first time, without allowing our illusion of knowing, prevent us from being present to the experience unfolding in front of us.

Okay, back to Date #3... I had already had a very successful Date #1. I had been to our venue many times (some might say I was a 'regular') AND I already knew Date #3 pretty well through mutual friends. As I walked the million miles to the venue (NB: Parking in West End on a Saturday night is horrific), I realised I needed to flick the switch and put on my beginner's mind. As a result, I learnt a lot about Date #3 that I didn't already know. And my experience at the venue was different to any time before it... and it was a lot of fun!

So, how was Date #3? First, let's look at this excerpt from "The Complete Book of Rules - time tested secrets for capturing Mr Right"...

So to answer that question..."Date #3 was nice! We had a lot of fun" :)

And here is the mandatory photo to prove it happened...

"The Complete Book of Rules" also suggests complimenting your date on 'his choice of restaurant, shirt or good sense to ask you out'. Who am I to break the rules?! I kindly complimented Date #3 on his choice of venue as we entered, to which he replied, "I'm pretty sure you chose this place in the end". Oooops! Good time to embrace Mindfulness Pillar #8 - A sense of humour. :)

And by the way, Date #3... I really like your shirt! ;)

If you like Date #3's choice of shirt too, let him know by clicking here:
http://my.artezpacific.com/personalPage.aspx?registrationID=532976&langPref=en-CA&Referrer=direct%2fnone

Five in Five update: Date #2 = Postponed

My father is a man of many talents. One of his greatest talents is embarrassing the crap outta me, and what better time to do that, than when (he thinks) I'm on a Five in Five charity date.

Last night while I was visiting my parents, I gave them a run down on my dates thus far. Of course they wanted the credentials and job titles of each and I reminded them that this was dating 'for charity' and not to marry me off just yet. Dad raised an eyebrow when I mentioned that one of my dates was a bus driver/stunt man, but said no more.

As I got in the car to leave, I called back to Dad and said, "Make sure you look at the sky about 6:30pm tomorrow night, you might see Batman fly over on his way to our date."

"Batman??? You didn't tell me the stunt man was BATMAN" Now Dad was interested.

So tonight, when I was scheduled to be on my Putt Putt date with 'Batman', this picture message came through on my phone from Dad:

(Thankfully) I had to postpone tonight's date as I've picked up the tummy bug that's going around the office. 'Batman' suggested strawberry milk and smarties as a good all-round remedy... and who am I to argue with Batman.


Putt Putt Golf with Date #2 (aka Batman) will be rescheduled for next week.

Progress check:

• Dessert with Date #3 on Saturday
• Will make contact with Date #4 and Date #5 tomorrow
• Waiting on contact from Date #6 (yes, there is a bonus round - I'm not going to turn people away from a charity event)
• Donations have come rolling in since the successful completion of Date #1 - I am now only $20 away from my goal of $200
• Five and Five is now giving away a skydive experience to the highest fundraiser and their favourite date. I might as well smash two fears at the same time - awkward social situations and HEIGHTS.

Thank you to everyone who has donated funds, bachelors and enthusiasm to this great cause!!

If you think fathers who embarrass their daughters on dates should be applauded, donate here:
http://my.artezpacific.com/personalPage.aspx?registrationID=532976&langPref=en-CA&Referrer=http%3a%2f%2ffiveinfive.org.au%2f

If you think fathers who embarrass their daughters on dates should be disgraced, donate here:
http://my.artezpacific.com/personalPage.aspx?registrationID=532976&langPref=en-CA&Referrer=http%3a%2f%2ffiveinfive.org.au%2f